Traditionally the Groom has always made a speech at the wedding breakfast after the ceremony, but in the days of inclusivity how do you navigate this tradition? It doesn’t matter who makes the speech, whether it is one or both spouses, or what gender you identify as, but it’s a good tradition to keep for the reasons you can find within these top tips. For the purposes of this article, I shall refer to it as ‘The Spouse’s Speech’ going forward.
The Spouse’s Speech is a momentous and often nerve-wracking part of any wedding celebration. It’s an opportunity to express your love and gratitude, make everyone laugh, and maybe even shed a tear or two. With all eyes on you, it’s crucial to get your speech just right. But fear not, because here are five top tips to help you write and deliver a memorable spouses speech that will leave a lasting impression on your guests.
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Start with a Heartfelt Thank You:
Begin your Spouse’s Speech by expressing your sincere gratitude. Thank your parents, in-laws, and everyone who helped make your wedding day possible. Acknowledge the hard work and support that went into planning this special day, and remember to mention your spouses family. Showing appreciation is a great way to start, and it sets a positive tone for the rest of your speech.
Share Your Love Story:
One of the most engaging parts of a Spouse’s Speech is sharing your love story. Take your guests on a journey through the highlights of your relationship – how you met, your first date, the moment you knew they were the one, and the proposal. Use humour, anecdotes, and memorable details to make your story relatable and endearing. This personal touch will help your guests connect with you and your spouse on a deeper level.
Praise Your Spouse:
This is your chance to publicly celebrate the love of your life. Shower your spouse with compliments and heartfelt words. Talk about their beauty, their kindness, their strengths, and the qualities that make them the perfect partner for you. Be genuine and speak from the heart, and remember to make eye contact with your spouse during this part of the speech. Your words of affection will not only make their day but also touch the hearts of your guests.
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Inject Humour:
A little humour can go a long way in breaking the ice and keeping your speech engaging. Share some light-hearted anecdotes or funny moments from your journey as a couple. However, be cautious not to overdo it or include any inside jokes that only a few guests will understand. Keep your humour inclusive and in good taste. Laughter can be a wonderful way to connect with your audience.
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Look to the Future:
End your Spouse’s Speech by looking to the future with optimism. Express your excitement about the adventures that lie ahead as a married couple. Share your hopes and dreams, and reassure your spouse and guests that you’re ready for this next chapter of your life together. End on a positive note by proposing a toast to love, happiness, and a bright future.
Writing a Spouse’s Speech can be a daunting task, but with these five top tips, you’ll be well-prepared to create a speech that captivates your audience, touches the hearts of your loved ones, and leaves a lasting impression. Remember to practice your speech multiple times, stay relaxed, and savour every moment of your special day. Your Spouse’s Speech is a beautiful opportunity to express your love, gratitude, and joy, so embrace it with confidence and enthusiasm. Cheers to a lifetime of happiness with your new spouse!